tbi: relationships
For this post I'll go talk about my experience with friendships and romantic relationships. My personality has had some changes so while there are parts of me that are the same before my tbi, there's some that changed. These changes can lead to people or the person with the tbi to end a relationship, from personal experience and what I've seen this is bound to happen, it's normal. Someone had met you before the tbi and you might not be that anymore so it's understandable why a relationship of any kind will end.
For me, I've noticed I've become a somewhat sensitive person, I struggle understanding certain topics that I could engage in before my tbi, I have traits similar to a kid sometimes because of this. This doesn't mean I am a kid, that I should always be treated like a kid, and that I'm incompetent when I'm still an adult.
I might not be who I was fully but there's some parts that I still have of that. I don't like people assuming or expecting to go back to how I was constantly because I can't do that, I understand that someone got along with them and they might think the current me is not for them. Because I'm not who I was fully before and someone has some issue I pick up, I might end the relationship too so I'm not always the "victim" of this. I honestly rather have someone end the relationship or express their problems with it than just have me pick it up, I'm autistic and I had my tbi so I might not even pick it up ever or I might way later. The capacity my brain has isn't the same as before.
Before this, I identified within the aromantic spectrum. Now that this occured I also realized that I identify with the asexual spectrum too, I have considered it before but I feel like having my tbi solidified my asexuality.
However, I do really appreciate those that have known me before this and decided to get to know how I currently am. I might not be who I was fully before, I understand that it might not be easy for them to grasp or understand these changes and that's okay.